A Newlywed Truth

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... a little help here!





Yesterday we got a notice from our complex about a garage cleaning today therefore, our cars needed to be out of the garage by 9am. Normally, this is no biggie because we're working, however today is one of our final days of summer so we had to move our cars to street level since we hadn't set out for our daily grind quite yet. As I was getting ready, Mike asked me how long I'd be before I was ready to go, I told him about 20 minutes, and then he left. He returned about 5 minutes later and told me he moved my car to a spot right outside the building and I had 25 minutes before my meter ran out. Immediately I thought, "wow, that was really sweet of him! He had to move his own car too and then thought to move mine without me even asking him, way to go Mike!"  Then my mind drifted to the things I no longer do, or have to do, because I have "a husband to do things like that." I didn't like this one bit.

I know what you're thinking, seriously... how can she complain about this... she's nuts! To be clear, I am not complaining about Mike doing things for me. I love him to pieces and appreciate everything he does for me, the part that bugs me is the... you don't have to worry about stuff like that because you have a man around the house mentality that gets me.

Case in point: Not too long ago, we were riding up the elevator with a woman who lives on our floor. She had a cart of sorts to carry all her work things from her car to her apartment which I thought was super cool, so I complimented her and her "city-living" accessory. Her response, "yes well, I have to have something to help me with my things because I don't have a man to help me carry things." what?!?! Correct me if I'm wrong, but there are plenty of fabulous single ladies (and mommies!!!!) out there doing what needs to be done and not starving in an empty apartment with a car full of crap because they don't have a man around to carry things to their doorstep!!


It just doesn't make any sense to me. How can we fight to no end about being able to do anything men can do and yet still expect them to take on certain things we label as, "man things"??

We can't have it both ways ladies!

Instead of making it a husband-thing or a wife-thing, how about we take a team work approach to responsibilities. I simply cringe thinking of a future where chores are completed because he's the man doing man things and I'm the woman doing woman things. C'mon ladies, we're stronger than that!!!

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