A Newlywed Truth

The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

The Good:
Yesterday, Mike walked into our room and caught me talking to myself (yes, I totally do this... when I have a lot of things to do I talk through possible schedules until I find a good fit and if you're reading this thinking... "she's crazy"... truth...if you're also thinking..."I never do that"... denial) He stared at me with wide eyes waiting for an explanation and when I told him he laughed and told me how cute I was. I love him.

The Bad:
Last week we had words about responsibilities. As you know from previous posts, Mike lined up a few part time gigs for the summer. Unfortunately, he isn't working as much as he'd like. No big deal... or so I thought. Two Sundays ago (the weekend before the 4th) Mike asked what my week looked like. I was in the midst of my first large paper of the summer so I was a bit stressed and told him I had class, tutoring and paper writing all times in between. When I asked what his week looked like he talked about playing golf with his buddies, hanging out, and maybe working on some homework he had.
sing it with me Sesame Street fans ~ one of these things is not like the other...
The following days went something like this... I'm home for brief increments of time to shower/change /eat/breath while Mike is occupying various places on our couch getting in some quality Call of Duty time. After 3 days of this, it struck a cord in me. My thought process: "this is nuts! I'm working my butt off and he gets to chillax at home?! Seriously, read a book, clean a sink or a floor, buy me a present!" or something of the sorts... the present thing is a joke... haha. Needless to say, I expressed my thoughts on how I felt I was going about 100mph and he was going about 20. He listened respectfully and offered some solutions, including how this could be a result of stress instead of anger towards him, fair... but we did realize I was a bit legit. with my feelings of unequal duties. As it turns out, he was feeling bummed about not working too much too and has made some inquiries with his boss' but wasn't getting too far, all of which he couldn't really tell me because I wasn't present long enough to share, always good to see the other side. In the end, we came up with a solution we're both comfortable with and moved on. *Okay, so there were some angry tones tossed around but I am happy to report we both did a very good job of staying on topic.


The Ugly:
In class on Tuesday, my professor was calling out our names and when she got to Sarah Pentek, I looked around waiting for someone to respond. I kid you not, I had no excuse, and there are 5 people in my class including me. How is it possible I still do not know my name?! My professor said, "isn't that you?!" I mean, is that as bad as it gets or what?!

To sum up= Mike's a great guy and I'm very lucky to have such an understanding, and "with it", other half. =)